My Bucket/ Fuck It List

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I’ve always had a running list of places I wanted to visit and things that I wanted to do over the course of my life. My husband and I also had our list of things we wanted to do together once we retired. I know, its a long time away but it was something we loved to talk about!

When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015, I made a bucket list of things that I wanted to do with my family and things that were important to me, but I had no concerns of it not getting done. The plan was for me to get through my cancer treatments, get back to my life and all of the things that I wanted to do will eventually be crossed off. But, then I was diagnosed with terminal cancer and all those things on my bucketlist became imminent. 


My bucket/ fuck it list, as I like to call it became a priority. A huge priority. I often feel that it’s me against time. I have a need to get as much done now, while I can.  I have come to terms that I might not be able to complete everything that I want to do, but while I’m living, doing well and able to travel I’m going to try to cross off as many things and make as many memories as possible with those I love. Winning the lottery to fund all these things I want to do would be nice too! 


I think of my list like a working document. As things come up, I ad them to the list, and as I complete others I remove them. It’s really a great feeling trying to get as much done as possible. But at the same time, I know most of these things probably won’t be crossed off as a lot of the large travel items might not be possible. 



I think its also so important to know that I have two bucket lists. One of is of the bigger items that I’m sharing below and the other list is a  list of moments I want to be here for. Moments that are so important to me to be there for. Being around to watch my kids finish Grade 3 and Grade 1. To be well enough to travel so we can go on another family vacation. To make it to another summer. To be there in the stands cheering my son on while he plays hockey. To be able to get my daughter ready at a dance competition. As much as my bucket list below is amazing, these “smaller moments” are also incredibly important to me. 

So here we go. Cue the drums……….

Here’s my Bucket List (in no particular order):


  • Visit Iceland
  • Be in the scene “Life Support” and say my name in the production of RENT
  • Attend the Tony Awards
  • Take my family on a trip to Paris
  • Be a guest on the Ellen Show
  • Meet Oprah
  • Have a big 39th birthday celebration
  • Go back to San Francisco
  • See the Northern Lights
  • Take my kids to Disneyworld in Florida
  • Take the train from Toronto to the West Coast
  • Visit my friend Sophie in Australia. And then travel to New Zealand, Fiji, and Bali while I’m in that part of the world. 
  • Visit PEI in the summertime and see Anne of Green Gables
  • Go on a Disney Cruise
  • Stay in a super fancy hotel. Lie in bed all day watching TV and ordering room service. 
  • Be in an episode of Law & Order 
  • Take Princess Peach to see a professional ballet production
  • Go on an Alaskan Cruise
  • Learn to Knit
  • Visit Greece
  • Have a PJ party at a movie theatre and play my favourite childhood movies 
  • Go on a hot air balloon ride
  • Take my kids to see RENT. Although not 100% age appropriate it means a lot for me to be with them the first time. 
  • Take Princess Peach to Spain
  • Renew my wedding vows with my husband
  • Take each kid on another  1-on-1 trip
  • See all of the major tennis tournaments (I’ve already attended 2 out of 4)
  • Go on an African Safari
  • Eat lots of pasta and tiramisu all over Italy
  • Have a private dining experience where a chef prepares an incredible multi-course meal to my food preferences
  • Go the rainforest. I want to see the monkeys
  • Visit the Galapagos Islands
  • Eat lots of ice cream
  • Take a cheese monger course
  • Visit Israel again
  • Go to Bora Bora ( I can dream!)
  • See Hamilton the musical in NYC
  • Public speaking to share my story with more people
  • Hit 10K on Instagram (I’m trying SO hard!)
  • Throw a giant party and invite everyone to celebrate my life before I die


So there you have it friends! Renee’s bucket/ fuck it list! Sharing it with all of you makes it way more real but that’s just the reality of my situation.  I sure hope I’m able to cross many of these things off while I still feel good. 


Also, I will be sharing what I have already crossed off my bucket list in later posts. So stay tuned for awesome experiences and lots of travel posts to come!! 



  1. ruth says:

    girl ..i am only 2 hours from Disney. if you would like a place to stay either before or after… my home is open… always

  2. Sophie says:

    Well, I can meet in San Francisco, and when you go to Australia, we can go to the tennis open and we can go to fiji, bora bora, and NZ!

  3. Elizabeth Wilson says:

    A great place to see monkeys is Ubud in Bali. They have a monkey forest where you can play with wild monkeys

  4. Gemma says:

    Congratulations on 10k and your first swipe up!!!! When you take the train from Toronto to the West Coast I would love to meet up with you and take you to my fave Starbucks location. And if you haven’t been to Vancouver or Vancouver Island before, I’d be happy to be your tour guide

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