I went on my first cancer date

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I thought my dating days were over. When I was young, I dated guys trying to find Mr. Right. Then I found him, my soul-mate and those dating days were over. Then after I had Princess Peach, I started “dating” other moms not in a romantic way but in a play-date/friend type of way. It was fun getting to know new moms and their babes and having the support of other moms going through the same things as me. I never thought at the age of 34 I would be back on the dating scene, but this time in a very, different capacity.

You see this past Monday, I went on my first-ever cancer friend date.

Saturday evening, I got a message from a mutual friend on Facebook making an introduction to another mom who has been diagnosed with breast cancer like me. The mutual friend thought we had a lot in common and made the e-introduction. The truth is, we do have a lot in common. Young moms, diagnosed with breast cancer, going through treatment, and live in the same area.

We chatted for a bit and made a date to meet. To be honest, I was a little nervous. Some other friends have been amazing and set me up with other services to e-meet other moms in similar situations to mine, but I felt ready to meet someone in person. Someone who would “get” me.

As I have said many times, I am so lucky to be surrounded by and have an amazing support network. But the support network can’t relate to what exactly I’m feeling and going through. They can support me but until you walk in a cancer patients shoes, you can’t really get it.

So I met T, Monday morning for coffee and it was amazing! It was exactly what I needed. She has a similar attitude to mine and she was a breath of fresh air! She was so upbeat and so positive. It was like we have known each other forever. We laughed, and we commiserated. We shared information. We talked about our experiences, our lives, our children. It was so good for my soul to talk to someone my age, who just got me.

I am so lucky to add this wonderful woman and now friend to my support network and me to hers!

I guess being back on the dating scene again isn’t so bad! It’s not what I thought I would be doing, but so far my first cancer date was great!

Comments

  1. Darlene S. says:

    I’m so happy for you both, our friends & family do the best they can, but no one understands better then those who are and were walking in your shoes.

  2. I love this. <3

  3. mom2michael says:

    I think this is great! So glad you have found someone who so deeply understands. New friends are always a good thing :)

  4. Tamar says:

    I’m so glad you took my cancer friend date virginity! Huge ‘thanks’ to Mara for setting us up :)

  5. Denise says:

    It was great to connect with a new friend with a similar story. Cancer is not a fun thing and support from others who went through it means a lot!

  6. autumnhm says:

    That is awesome!! It would be so nice to be able to sit down and talk with someone that has similar experiences. I am the only one that I know of in my area around my age that had cancer and as much as everyone around me tries to talk with me it would be great to talk to someone who knows what it’s like.

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